Stuntin’ Like my…Uncles!

This past weekend, I spent a lot of time thinking about my uncles. My mom has 5 brothers, and when I was growing up without my own father, they really became my examples. James (Jr.), Rommie, Ronnie, Joe, and Roc…sounds like an old-school soul group, and their pictures add to the confusion! I love those guys because they were there. They weren’t perfect…far from it, actually. I saw each of them struggle, even fail, but I learned so much from them. That’s one of the mysteries of life for me – that in order to influence someone, perfection is not necessary. Presence is.  


Fast forward to today. I’m a dad now. So, how do you think I would choose to prioritize my time?

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#DearDaddy

#DearDaddy

I should probably subtitle my blog, “Dear Daddy” because so much of who I am has been shaped by two things – family & faith.  When I look back over my first 31 years, three things really dominate the landscape: fatherlessness, fatherhood, and the relationship with my heavenly father.  Let me explain…

Fatherlessness
I grew up without much of a relationship with my dad.  He and my mom were very young when I was born, and he made the choice not to be very involved. I knew who he was and we did share some moments, but on a grand scale, he was absent.  He missed nearly every significant event in my life. Few things had a greater impact on my development than the fact that my dad was not around.  To this day, I see the effects of growing up without my father. In many cases, it shows up in negative ways.  At other times, it propels me forward in positive ways.  As we take this journey together, I’ll shed light on this issue of fatherlessness – not in the form of an essay or research paper, but by opening up the windows of my life and letting you look in.  By being honest about its impact on my life, I’ve been healed in many ways, and I look forward to doing so even more!
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